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Practicing the Art of Adventure:: Becky Miller

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What does it look like to practice the art of adventure?

On Fridays we feature a woman who is Practicing the Art of Adventure in her daily life-stepping into the unknown, embracing change, trusting God, leaving fear, and loving extravagantly, all the while, traveling deeper into His heart. It is our desire that through their lives and stories of adventure you will be inspired & challenged to say YES to God’s invitation to follow Him. No matter what season of life you find yourself in, may you see that everyday is an opportunity to practice the art of adventure as you abide with Jesus.

We’d love for you to join us here each week!

So…what adventures is God leading you into?

I can’t wait for you to read this interview! I met Becky when we were preparing to come to the Netherlands. She helped us in our preparations and made transitioning to a new country so much easier. Becky’s life stirs me to action! I appreciate her honesty and ability to talk openly about her struggles and weaknesses as well as her big dreams and desires. She is a living testimony to God’s extravagant love and grace which equips each of us for every season of our lives.

In this interview Becky opens up about her struggle with postpartum depression {you should definitely listen to her 7-minute talk entitled, “What it Feels Like Going Mad”}, the overwhelming responsibilities she feels of being a mom to five kiddos, and how she’s doing her best to discern God’s priorities in her life right now. So take a minute with us today, as we peek into the life of another woman who is practicing this beautiful art of adventure in her daily life!

First, introduce yourself {tell us where you are from, your favorite place to go or favorite thing to do, and what a “normal” day looks like for you!}

Hi, I’m Becky! I’m an American who has lived in the Netherlands for four years. I moved here to help with an international church plant; currently I coordinate the small groups and discipleship program.

Two of my five children (ages 9, 7, 4, 2, and 5 months) were born here, at home in my bathtub! The Dutch home birth system is fantastic, especially the “kraamzorg” nurses who come to take care of mom and baby at home for the first week. The oldest three kids are in Dutch school and speak the language much better than I do. They enjoy correcting my pronunciation and vocabulary.

We didn’t own a car for our first three and a half years here, so we are experts at moving our family around town on bikes in all combinations of baby seats, a trailer, and a cargo bike (bakfiets). I can carry a week’s worth of groceries and a couple kids with my bakfiets!

What is your current season of life right now & where are you having difficulties trusting God?

My husband is a managing partner at a Belgian data analytics consultancy where he works crazy hours and travels extensively. I am so grateful we were given the benefit of an au pair living with us a year and a half ago. First Sarah and now Hannah have made it possible for me to serve my church and also continue working occasionally as a writer and corporate trainer. We also hired a university student to help with housework once a week.

Even with those amazing privileges, daily life with five small children is overwhelming, especially when my husband is gone. There is so much to do, and there are so many needs in my family and my community, that I feel like I never do enough. I usually go to bed feeling like I’m failing at everything.

I struggle to trust God in the drudgery of housekeeping and parenting small children. I have big ideas, but I fear there won’t be time for them, that I won’t make an impact on the world. I have difficulty trusting that these little daily things I do really matter.


Share with us a specific example of how and when God has met you when you’ve walked into the unknown with Him?

In 2009, on a trip to my home town, years of unprocessed grief caught up to me, and I had an emotional breakdown. Undiagnosed postpartum depression after my second child was born increased my struggle. I cried every day for months, and some days I could barely get out of bed. Friends intervened and got me to a doctor, and I began professional therapy and antidepressants.

I have been a Christian since I was four years old, but in my early twenties, I had trouble connecting with God intimately. I didn’t realize it was because I had shut off my heart to avoid pain. The night I fell apart, I sensed God inviting me to surrender my heart, to trust God’s higher ways and healing process.

I said yes, and over the next two years, God gently dug up every broken place in my heart and healed them all.

It was excruciating, yet I felt the Holy Spirit’s comfort intensely.

Now I can feel the full range of emotions God blesses us with, the fun ones as well as the uncomfortable ones. They are all gifts.

(You can hear more of my story about depression and recovery in this talk. I also have an essay about PPD in this anthology.)

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We’d love to hear what step(s) out of your comfort zone you have taken recently or will take soon.

A year ago, I preached my first sermon at my church. I’ve been doing public speaking since I was in junior high, and have spoken professionally for years, but preaching is different–the responsibility of teaching people about God feels heavy. In my role as the small groups/discipleship director, I’ve been moving beyond administration into pastoral care. It’s stretching and challenging me!

I want to write a book about making emotionally and mentally healthy disciples, so I am trying to figure out how that fits into life as well…discerning God’s priorities can be hard. 

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How do you hear God’s voice most clearly? Is it a time of day, a place you go, a thing you do…anything!

I’ve had many meaningful encounters with God sitting on the floor of a shower. I think it helps me relax enough to be vulnerable with God (and get privacy from the kids). There is a hill in Maastricht that gives a view of the whole city, and I like to pray there. It’s become a good place for me to listen.

I think having a place to go where you build a habit of listening can help your mind and heart prepare to hear from God.

So much of walking with God on this adventure is about facing our fears, embracing change, and trusting Him…what is one of your biggest fears that keeps your paralyzed from saying “Yes” to God’s adventure for you?

I am afraid of hurting people when I fail. Stepping into people’s crises and pointing them to God is serious work, and I don’t want to mess it up. I read everything I can get my hands on to learn how to do this better, but I still don’t always know what to do. I am looking at starting a seminary program in the fall, because I want to be properly equipped for the work of ministry.

That’s a big challenge of time to consider: how will I balance my family, my church, AND studying? 

And how do you overcome your specific fears?

For my fear of not doing enough for the world: Jennifer Fulwiler is a mom of 6, a published author, a radio host, and a speaker. She’s also really honest about her life. She has a lot of good advice about honoring God through the vocation of raising small children. This is one of my favorites:

For my fear of messing up ministry: As I said, I read a ton about theology, ministry, discipleship, pastoring, preaching, and more. One thing I’ve learned about extensively this past year is how prevalent abuse is even amongst professing Christians. Spiritual abuse in churches, sexual abuse, relationship abuse in Christian marriages…it’s everywhere. And I deal with it over and over in ministry. One of the best resources for understanding abuse is:

What does a life of adventure with God look like for you?

Jesus lived a wildly counter-cultural life. His teachings challenged the religious lifestyle AND the secular lifestyle of His time (and of all times!).

A life of adventure with God to me means living like Jesus lived: loving people who are difficult to love, spending my time and money on the Kingdom of God instead on gaining material wealth, giving up my sinful desires by the power of the Holy Spirit, being merciful and humble, working for peace and justice

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Becky would love to hear from you!

You can find her on IG  for a fun peek into her messy, real mom life!

Or on Twitter where she loves sharing about discipleship and mental + emotional health.

Feel free to leave her a comment here today! 

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  1. Thank you Becky (and Charissa also) for this open, transparant and powerfull interview!
    Becky helped me in a crisis situation in my life and she really bravely stood up and guided me through all along and still doing by just being who she is and using her gifts and talents.For me personally Becky does not fail, she does make an impact in this world and it is enough what she is doing from her heart and wishdom of God in her daily life and lives of others :)))))